I’ve been anywhere but here lately. To be perfectly honestly, I’m not really feeling it right now. Have I fallen out of love with blogging? Perhaps. I’ve also had lots of other things distracting me.
First of all, we got cats. Yes, yes, I know…me, a previously declared non-cat person has changed her tune. We went as a family two weeks ago to the SPCA and rescued a pair of 8 month old brothers who were close to being euthanized. They are a couple of very cool cats. And more? Growing to love them has started to heal the void left when Lillian died a month ago. I still miss her every single day but having these boys swat at my feet from under the bed makes me smile and I dig smiling. Besides, the girls are more than smitten. They spend every spare minute loving up those felines – such big hearts they have.
Beyond that, I’ve been gathering our taxes, taking care of long ignored paperwork, planning for the year ahead, scouring through every account and expense to see where we can save money, and making huge life decisions. You know, the usual.
Facebook and Twitter have been more engaging to me than the blogosphere lately. After taking a step back, not posting for a while, choosing not to attend the conferences this go round, all have given me a bit of added perspective. Whoever I thought I was out here – whoever I was trying to be – maybe I wasn’t. I’m just a mom, a woman trying to find her voice. Somewhere along the way, I think I got caught up in trying to be popular rather than just being me – and that’s bullshit.
There are chapters more I could write on the subject but I’m fairly sure you know what I mean. I just need to be me – with real people and real friends. And right now, that’s distracting – but in a good way.
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I think you can still be yourself with your blog. I dislike facebook and Twitter. I think we should at least have some time to ourselves and not let the world know everything we do. I guess I am getting old. But I must say I do like my privacy.
[...] Petroville wrote an interesting post today on DistractedHere’s a quick excerptI’ve been anywhere but here lately. To be perfectly honestly, I’m not really feeling it right now. Have I fallen out of love with blogging? Perhaps. I’ve also had lots of other things distracting me. First of all, we got cats. Yes, yes, I know…me, a previously declared non-cat person has changed her tune. We went as a family two weeks ago to the SPCA and rescued a pair of 8 month old brothers who were close to being euthanized. They are a couple of very cool cats. And more? Growing to love the [...]
For a long time, I tried to be who I wasn’t in blogging, ended up taking a long break, sure I lost readers and commenters, but now I am finding my ‘real voice’ again, and being real. I was getting to the point of worrying about offending people, but realizing that if people don’t like what I say, they don’t have to read.
Right? Right.
Stay cool!!
Very honest and very healthy. I never got on the blog band wagon – but I tried. Too many of the ones I read seemed to be the same thing…like running for Who’s Who in high school. Or they are daily adverts for etsy shops or ebay or whatever. I sell on ebay but I don’t post every day to hawk it.
I like FB and Twitter too…but because I can talk to those people who KNOW me and already like me. Or don’t, lol.
Good for you for being so open and honest!
And cats are awesome! I have had a dog and a cat and my cat is now my sweet boy. (Lost my precious dog to cancer 2 years ago and have not healed enough to get another.)
Stay well.
I totally get what you are saying. I am posting less and less, myself. Real life is more compelling these days. But, god, I have met so many wonderful people through my blog and I would hate to lose touch with them.
Popularity has never been my set of clothes, heck it has not even walked in front of my house to get down the street. But then I’m not me to be famous. I’m just me cause can’t nobody else do as good a job of it then I can.
And that job is “like a box of chocolates”, as Forest would say, and you know the rest.
Blog, journal, paint, write, smile or even cry because it makes YOU happy and it entertains YOU, if by some chance it does the same for anyone else…
Well hell I guess they just got lucky.
I just got back from vacation and a 2 week internet break and am having a hard time getting back into the grove of it. And I’m so sorry you are not going to Blogher because I think(?) I am and I would have loved to have hung out with you.
Blogging is a strange beast, with the commenting and the persona you put out there, and all of the rest. You have to do what feels right for you. You seem to be a really cool woman, no matter what you do or where you post. And frankly, it’s probably a good thing to be distracted by real life.
Oh Lordy, I love you more than EVER!!!
Isn’t Twitter fun? That’s all I have time for lately with TWO kids now and my new crochet business. I do miss the bloggy, though. But sometimes I feel I get more interaction with the Twitter. That’s what it’s about, not the popularity.
Cats are adorable. I love when they’re all skittery!
Do you still have your other dog? (Jack?)
Ms Martyr – Yes, we still have Jack (a Great Dane). We have another dog Kasey (a shepherd mix) as well – but they are my daughter’s dogs.. Lillian was MY dog …you know? (My baby)
The cats are cool because they are everyone’s and they go where they please. It’s nice to have a pet that is so low maintenance!
I totally get it. Enjoy taking some time to breathe.
I get it. Totally. Have fun on your vacation in real life and send us a note when you get back!
You have been awarded the lemonade award by me! Why the lemonade award? It is given as appreciation for those people who have shown a great attitude or gratitude this week.
Just wanted to let you know that I adore you and love that you are always so real!
Take a break, Take a nape, take a walk! – Just know that I will still check your blogspot every day around the same time! I know that you will be back…
Congrats on the new additions to your family…I love having cats in the house, and the way their quiet company comforts.
I hear you on this one, Momma. In fact, we’re thinking along the same lines…too. Hope that doesn’t scare you, too much.
I hope you know that there are some people, out here, who really enjoy what you have to say. Whenever you choose to, you know, say it. Hang in there.
I’m glad the kitties are filling in the heart parts that need some lovin! and I love the post-so honest-hey, what happened to our 30 day shred? I need to get back on that band wagon foresure! one of these days this love affair I’m having with “yo-yo” weightloss and gain will come to an end-Take care of yourself
Aww mannn!! I completely understand. But hey – Survivor is back on, are you watching?!? Can I be your facebook friend?
Well, guess what? I MISS YOU.
Yes. Not only did I quit blogging, but it simply doesn’t attract me anymore. Life is where it’s at. I suddenly wanted to have my shit together in my real life more than I wanted that peaceful calm of blogging. Of course, my shit still isn’t together, but I have the dream.
And of course Facebook is a great new addiction.
Wait. What? You’re not going to BlogHer?
Well, I’m just going to have to come up and meet you at your place or something.
I am not as much into facebook as blogging. I don’t write everyday but I have met some really great people through my blog. Facebook is filled with a lot of people that I once knew. People from my past. People that I no longer have much in common with. Don’t get me wrong, I love to see what they are all up to these days but I really enjoy my blog buddies.
[...] Petroville: Facebook and Twitter have been more engaging to me than the blogosphere lately. After taking a step back, not posting for a while, choosing not to attend the conferences this go round, all have given me a bit of added perspective. Whoever I thought I was out here – whoever I was trying to be – maybe I wasn’t. I’m just a mom, a woman trying to find her voice. Somewhere along the way, I think I got caught up in trying to be popular rather than just being me – and that’s bullshit. [...]
Feeling all of that, from the blog to the dog. Sigh. Lost my sweet dog 4 years ago in January and still miss her. Sigh again.
I lurve you just the way you are. And now we’re partners in reluctant cat ownerships – my pair are just about 9 months now. Sigh.