My sister came over yesterday to hang out. It was so nice to chat, catch up, vent and giggle. We talked wedding plans, vacations, girly-girls and family gossip. And now that she’s engaged, we’ve started the commiseration.
Mine cuts his toenails in bed.
Mine eats in bed.
Mine asks me to help him cut his toenails.
Mine eats ribs in bed and spills them.
I’m still not sure who won that one.
The wedding is over a year away but there is already table seating stress. My family needs premarital therapy- not because they are unhappy with the union. Not at all. We need it so we can make it through the reception without a fist fight. You see, it won’t be a shotgun wedding in the sense that my sister will be with child. No sir, that was me. It’s more like we need metal detectors set up at all entrances to the reception venue. We have issues, people.That’s not rare, right?
My Nana is not at all thrilled with the wedding date. She is sure she’ll be dead by then but until that unfortunate day, she plans on watching QVC and making handwritten & extremely detailed lists and then mailing them to my mother. These are lists of all the things my sister should have - registry be damned.
Besides realizing how smart I was to elope, I’m beginning to pack for our trip next week (which means I’m making lot and lots of piles), getting our paperwork finalized to close on the old house in less than 48 hours, making sure our taxes are ready to mail before we go and trying not to look like a victim of domestic violence due to faulty application of self-tanning cream. Oh, and being pissed about American Idol. WTF is going on there?
But enough about me.
Tell me, tell me. Were there any family issues at your wedding?
Oh, come on…give me the juice.
My step-father’s ex-wife was at my wedding? We thought she was dying of cancer and wanted to give her a chance to have a celebration with her children (my step-siblings). Turns out it wasn’t cancer afterall or she had a miraculous recovery.
And the lovely bookends she sent us? I think they’re in a box somewhere.
My neice was supposed to be the flower girl for our wedding. I paid $175 for a dress for her to wear down the isle. The day before the wedding my mother-in-law called me to tell me that my neice had a cold and that they were not sure if she could do the wedding. Then the day of the wedding they were telling me she would be there and was fine. It turned out she was not fine and had been in the hospital for 48 hours with a UTI. She ended up being ok, but I was so annoyed that they were lying to me the whole time when I could have easily found an understudy. I have lots of girlfriends with kids. So there went the $175 dress I bought. They kept the dress anyway and I had to beg them for two years to get it back. I figured I would sell it.
My mom and dad were divorcing at the time. They’d been separated over a year, and the filing had been done for over 9 months, but they spent the next two years wrangling over the paperwork. Meanwhile, two weeks before my wedding, my mom found out my dad had been dating someone during this time. They both threatened not to come. I told them both I didn’t care. They both showed up. My dad left after the ceremony. Lovely.
My wedding was limited to 23 people. So no drama, thank god!
:giggle: Family Issues??? I have never known a Wedding that DIDN’T have them…lol…You know I used to marry people. Perform the Ceremony…I could write a book about Family issues and the dysfunction that is downright rampant! Especially the reception and the Table Seating. Though the Wedding Party itself can cause HUGE “issues”…I’ve seen it all…including a Wedding being canceled at 1am in the morning the MORNING of the Wedding, which was to have taken place at 10 am…!
Nothing would surprise me, my dear….nothing!
Nope. No Issues. It was just us and some candlelight chapel deal. We walked in by ourselves and out by ourselves.
Have a wonderful day!
Huggles and Love,
Raggedy
Family issues? LOL!! Nah…
Nothing worth talking about almost 18 years later!!
xo
LBC
My parents hosted a great event and spent lots of money doing it so I’m thankful but there’s just one little thing. We limited our guest list to 100 people in order to be conservative in our expenditure. This severely limited who we could ask. We told our best friends that they couldn’t bring dates unless they were married to or expecting the child of that date. My MIL had tribes of people angry with her, she is a very social person and was unable to invite friends who’ve known my husband since he was in diapers. But, day of my wedding there were people there that I’ve never met. My parents decided, since it was their cash after all, that they’d use my wedding as an event in which to include their new friends from the country club; people who have no place in my life still (it’s been ten years.) I was spitting nails and well, after this comment, realize I’m still pissed about it!
We planned ans made all of the arrangements. Then we told the close family members they were invited. We left nothing open to be interfered with.
I did not like my wedding. But, maybe that was because I was pregnant and could not drink like other people I know. OR hang out on the sunny patio w. my friends. OR, maybe because I had to deal my sisters issues and her sick, sick baby. Or that my father came up to us and said “You really need to get along. You are getting married, ya know.”
Issues, we all got ‘em!
We limited our wedding to 15 people and it still sucked. My sis-in-law and FIL fought and almost got violent and my best friend got so sh*tfaced that I had to take care of her most of the night. Yeah, and my Mom wasn’t invited to the wedding because when I told her about our engagement she said it would end in divorce and that this was just my first marriage. Oh there are so many issues…
Family, can’t live with them, can’t survive without them :duh:
My husband’s family has a lot of recovered alcoholics and a lot of not so recovered alcoholics. My family is truly Irish, it’s not a good party unless there is enough booze to drown a horse. So, after much discussion we decided to have a dry wedding which was going well until my Aunt Nancy arrived with I don’t know how many crates of champagne. My father had to station people out in the parking lot to stop my husband’s cousins from leaving with multi-bottles of booze. My dad is a cop and has understandable issues with drinking and driving. Meanwhile, my new MIL was busily loading up her car with the floral centerpieces from the tables. She had a church event that evening and had volunteered to do the center pieces. She figured we would have them at the wedding and that she could just take them, crystal bowls and all, and no one would notice.
AND….his parents promised the photographer so I cancelled the one I had already hired and their idea of a photographer turned out to be FIL with a snap camera.
My mother took the money for the band and spent it on who knows what and then acted shocked when no band showed up and didn’t admit to me later, after quite a large amount of booze consumption, that she never hired them and spent the money else where.
Half of the guests and none of my friends from school showed up because I was marrying an out-of-towner. (Grew up in a small town.) But, it was all worth it, 22 years later we are still married and happier than ever. :lovestruck:
Well given that I am currently planning my wedding the only family issues so far is that my dad is pigheaded (it took nearly 2 weeks to sign the contract for the venue), my grandmother is evil (she’s not invited) and my fiance’s daughter probably won’t be allowed to be in our wedding.
Sorry I missed the sister bonding time and family drama. Planning the seating at AM’s wedding sure will be an interesting event.
Which one?
Ha-ha-ha!
I’m sure they were over them by my fourth wedding.
Eloping seems far more sensible than a year’s worth of planning.
Hmmm metal detectors! :mischievous:
Three quarters of a good wedding is the fun of planning and laughing over ‘what if’s’. Much can happen between now and next year in our evolving family drama. All we need to do is focus on what the bride and groom want and laugh at whatever goes down. I saw on the news that you can now rent ‘Wedding Crashers’ to specifically target your most difficult guests. That could add a ‘zest’ to our party. Donations anyone?
It was a great time. I think you topped me with the ribs in bed. I can’t imagine such a mess on my white sheets! But then again, you didn’t see his blackened toenail, did you?
At a family dinner, celebrating our engagement with both sets of parents, my MIL announced she had compiled her guest list and it consisted of 300 people. If looks could kill my father’s eyes would have done her in. Amazingly she was able to widdle that list down to 60 when she was told that’s all my dad would pay for - anything above that she would have to fork over the cash.
I can’t wait to read your post after this wedding!!! Let’s see @ our wedding my husband invited his 6 ex-girlfriends. Yes, 6! Only 4 came & two were now married. But the other 2 brought their whole freakin’ family! I thought it was weird personally. But whatever.
His mom on the other hand brought her live-in girlfriend. Yeh. Shocker for the fam. Bot his and mine.
My dead beat father came, but I didn’t bother to tell him until the rehearsal dinner that he was not walking me down the isle. I’m afraid of confrontation. I preferred to walk alone.
i hope there will not be any family issues! mine is one month from today!!! :yahoo:
My 2 oldest daughters got married 6 months apart. The first always wanted to get married on New Years Eve, and did, and her sisiter planned her wedding to take place before the newlyweds had to go overseas. At the start of the nuptual planning my youngest daughter said when she gets mariied she was having a horse drawn carriage and a red carpet and all the pomp and cirumstance. When it was all over she said she’ eloping.
Happy Easter!
Huggles and Love,
Raggedy
My brother’s wedding was so awkward with divorced parents and stepparents and himself, the most awkward one of all, that Hubs and I got married in Scotland and invited 12 handpicked family members and friends to go along as the wedding party. We had a reception in Atlanta when we came home, which my (politely not invited to the wedding) dad still managed to ruin by waiting until then to tell me my grandmother had died (although I’d been home from my honeymoon for two weeks). But the wedding itself was PERFECT.
My wedding was drama-city!!!!! All day long I was praying that my mom wouldnt object during the ceremony and then that my 4month preggers belly would hide itself under the dress. Oh the table setting. PAINFUL. I had top split the room in two—my family on one side, Hubby’s on the other—for fear WWF would break out on the dance floor. And all went well……..until my mother decided to scream at me in front of the guests on my way out of the reception cause I was ingrateful to her for all her efforts at the wedding. Yea, cause she spent a total of $800 on my wedding………$250 of that was her own dress. BLAH—-it sucked. And 3 1/2 years later, I am glad that the wedding is over and real life has sunk in.
My parents were pretty good but because I was marrying someone a different religion none of hte rest of my family was there. There was 140 people there and 2 of them were related to me.
My husband’s parents had been divorced for not quite 1 year when we got married. My M-I-L caused MANY ISSUES! 1.She had the nerve to ask “Do i NEED to be at the rehearsal?” Give me a break. He’s your son! 2. She claimed we never took pics with her. (I have one hanging on my wall for the simple sake to say “YOU”RE A LIAR!” and because I have a 14 yr old b-i-l that still thinks the sun rises and sets on his mother. 3. At our dance - her best friend was dancing with my hubby during the dollar dance and she told him that he and his sis (who is 1 yr older than he is) need to be nicer to their mom! THen my hubby’s aunt and this lady got in a huge screaming match about my MIL! Nope - I’ll never forget our wedding dance! Needless to say we have been married almost 4 years now and I’ve seen my M-I-L maybe 3 times in those 4 years and she lives less than 15 miles from us and drives by our house 4 times a day on Sundays when she goes to pick up my little b-i-l! What a piece of work she is!
Well…at my wedding I was 2 months pregnant with our SECOND child. No one outside of the immediate family knew…not even our minister! My younger stepson who was 16 at the time got up to give a toast that neither my husband or I authorized and he announced that I was pregnant, to EVERYONE! You should have heard the gasps and the looks! After dropping the glass of champagne I was slowly sipping and hiding my face in the tablecloth I think I finally recovered from that awful shock by the end of our honeymoon. Needless to say, my OLDER stepson is my favorite! LOL!
Yes, there were issues. I try not to go there anymore.
The drama of just planning my daughter’s wedding is enough to give me a full body shiver. After reading the comments it has me thinking of how the day will turn out for her. I’ll let you know, it is less than 2 weeks away. I could rant on about RSVPs if you liked.
Juice. My MIL decided to add a few things to my registry behind my back. But the really harrowing stuff was my father came to the wedding, along with the little girl he had with the woman he was cheating on my mom with (nice English, that sentence there). Needless to say, my mom was furious!