Wednesday, my husband and I were very big people. I don’t mean large as in our egos or our asses, but big as in grown up. We took our big selves to an estate planner.
I always thought you required a butler or a Bentley to need a estate planner, but it seems as though I was wrong. Good thing too because my butler quit last week. bam dum bum
We went through trusts, wills, guardianship and when are they allowed to pull the plug. I kept increasing the number of doctors it would take to agree that I was a vegetable - 6 is a good number. At the end we asked if we could just be frozen and leave everything to our dog.
What a bizarre trip that was. I’ve never had a meeting where all I talked about was what would happen after I was dead - with diagrams. She even gave us homework which was to come up with a list of tangible items we wanted to “leave to people”.
On the drive home, I started thinking about this homework. I don’t really have all that much cool shit yet. Some jewelry, a few paintings that are only special to me, my dog and my blog. I remembered a post Monty wrote last year sometime about how or if she could notify her blog friends in the event of her untimely demise. Interesting.
We would want to know, you know? Imagine all of a sudden someone very dear to you out here in the blog world just stopped posting and it turned out they were dead and you never were the wiser.
I think we should all leave instructions with a loved one as to how we would want our blogs handled in the event of our death. By that I mean give them them the password and create a “If you’re reading this, I’m dead” post. That way all they have to do is publish it.
And then I thought of actually leaving my blog to someone. Who? I already promised it to Monty when I thought I would not survive my suicidal bathing suit shopping trip a week ago. (It was a close call but thankfully there were no razor blades in the dressing room or my purse at the time, so I’m still here) Then I thought of leaving it to my sister, who doesn’t have a blog but really and secretly wants one. I’m not sure what to do but I think I need a plan.
Who would you will your blog to if you passed away today?
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If I were to die today, I’d give my blog to my friend Freckles, who is one of my Friday Night Wine Club friends. She doesn’t have a blog, but I think she wants one.
If I were to die, I would have a ‘if you’re reading this I’m dead post’, but I don’t think I could will it to anyone. I can’t think of anyone that would want it. It’s too ‘mine’.
Hmmm…I think I’d want to have my blog burned and its ashes scattered all over my hometown. There’s too many secrets in there to just give it to anyone and my husband is just not the writer type. So, ashes to ashes, dust to dust with ye’ old blog, I say!
As you may know, I’ve already got my “If you’re reading this I’m pushin’ up daisies” post mostly ready, with instructions to my sister on how to post it.
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I’m thinking it would be in poor taste to put a voice post on there…so I’m probably going to.
Who would I will my blog to? Gosh, I’m not sure anyone would want the old thing. Perhaps someone could sell it in a garage sale, along with my large collection of jewelry and trinket boxes and all my *gulp* books.
No, my estate is NOT in order…crap. Something else to add to my “Things To Do Before I Die” list.
I thought about selling my blog on eBay until I realized I’d end up paying more in fees than I’d likely get for it.
Anyway… none of my real-life “loved ones” know that I even have a blog, so I guess if anything ever happens to me, you’ll probably just see a post that ends abruptly in mid-sen
Interesting question you pose. Hubby and I haven’t been to an estate planner yet but I do think it’s really important. I guess I’d leave my blog to my daughter, even though she can’t read or write yet.
We finally did the estate planning thing a few years ago. It did make me feel very grown-up.
I have thought about the blog notification thing before. Funny, I thought I was the only morbid person out there.
Who would I leave my blog to? I’ll have to ponder that one.
I’d have one of those “If you’re reading this I’m dead” posts ready for my daughter to post and then it would be curtains for the blog (as well as me)!
Estate planning is fun, huh? I would leave my blog to LLB. She would continue it, I’m sure. She’d have fun with it, too! She enjoys reading my blog. She often reads the “sloppy copy” and suggests changes. It’s cool.
We have so little, that our estate was planned in a NY minute!! We did feel quite grown up once it was done, though.
LBC
Creepy thing to think about, Momma
….but let’s see, I do not have my affairs in order because I’m one of those queen of denial people. But I plan to. Good intentions and all that stuff. And I suppose I would will my blog to my brother since he set it up for me in the first place.
Uh huh…. well… hmmmm… my blog. Not my inlaws because I say some really nasty stuff on there. Oh who knows. Maybe I will bequeath it to my church. Then they can really have some good fodder for my eulogy.
And as far as my estate … no. We have nothing in order. I guess we should with three kids, huh?
Yes, I have my estate in order. I refused to marry Antique Daddy until we had been to an estate attorney and put everything in order. When I was 34, I was widowed. My husband died with out a will. In Texas, if that happens, the state can give half the estate to the spouses parents. It was very very VERY bad. Don’t let this happen to you. You don’t really want the state making these kinds of decisions for you and that’s what happens when you don’t have a will. My soap box is GET A WILL GET A WILL GET A WILL and get it now.
This is a little difficult for me at the moment. We lost Rob over at http://gutrumbles.com/. Many bloggers attended his funeral. We had an online service memorial that turned into a permanent blog chat room. His daughter posted some pictures and thoughts on his blog recently. He did clarify at some point before he died that he wanted his site to remain up. I am on the outside because I had just recently added him to my blogroll. He had some people who were very close to him and they are in a great deal of pain right now. I will have to come to terms with making those decisions but I am not ready right now. I am proud of you for following through and making your plans. I am sure it was difficult to do and difficult to write about. After reading your post I think it will be easier for us to make our plans. I don’t know why so many of us put stuff like this off. You never know when you will go. I like the “If you are reading this idea”.
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ooooh, how interesting.
no, we haven’t done ANY of that yet. probably because we have no kids so it hasn’t hit us that we need to “plan ahead” yet. - PLANNING? what’s THAT?!?
i suppose if i died i’d want the blog to go to my husband. i’ve already told him if something happened to me he could at long last reveal it to my family so they could learn even more about me and what i’ve been thinking, etc. the last 2 years.
Oh man! Now you got my mind going in circles.
I don’t know who I would leave my blog to! all the other t’s are crossed and i’s are dotted though 
I haven’t done any of that ‘corpse’ stuff yet, and really, we need to because we’re not getting any younger.
Somebody needs to rent a hall and have a Blogger Will-a-thon.
I don’t have my “estate” planned - guess I should though. This week I am going through items left by my husbands parents and trying to divide it out among all the Grandchildren. (and worrying to make sure I get it even) It would have been nice if they had done some of this before they passed.
lol, not sure who I would leave my blog to.
Geez, I never thought of willing my blog to someone. Hmm. Honestly I dont think any of my relatives would be able to figure out how to post the darn “Farewell” entry, lol.
This post stresses me out because we have no Will and it’s been on our To Do list for years and years.
No one knows how to get into my blog……so perhaps you should worry if I suddenly disappear for a long, long time.
Our minds must run in the same gutter… Monty just told me that you had this post here, and I posted on same subject this morning. I’ll keep an eye on answers here and you can do the same with mine…
I have one question. What kind of comment would you leave? :raspberry:
Great question! I guess I should give Busy Mom my password, really, because she’s in town with me and would know if something happened. I’d give it to my husband, but he wouldn’t know what to do with it.
Eww. I feel very worms crawl in, worms crawl outish now.
That’s the great thing about having no assets..nobody will be fighting over my non-existant estate. They’ll all just be wailin’ about what a great bitch I was. Hopefully they’ll see to it that I get a proper cremation.
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just playing with your emoticons..tee hee
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In the event of my demise, I hereby bequeath Follow That Star to my sitemate, TSB, with all of the rights and privileges that accompany it.
In other words, she gets the bill from Squarespace.
Definitely Joey (my husband to be really soon). He reads it quite faithfully, so I think he’d do a good job of keeping it up. K, enough about death now?
Leaving messages from the grave is not such a crazy idea it would seem. I guess it had to happen one day and without the use of lawyers :pleasantry:
http://www.heavensmail.com
…actually worth a look